Yeah! 37 Hours, and 1 minutes….
posted by Veyron Supercharge on CITY NOIR using a blogHUD : [blogHUD permalink]

I kinda like using Netvibes.  It’s has been my start page for a long time now.  I’ve started using it as my main RSS reader.  I’ve switched readers now a few times - sue me - I’m fickle.  Anyway, I’ve put up a Veyron’s Universe page so you can see some of the things I read, and of course pull in some of my feeds into your Netvibes.

Give me a scribble on the page if you like it.

-Veyron

Naturally, the geeks who designed Second Life thought of this when they put it all together….

In a nutshell, lots of calling cards you’ve collected can slow your performance down.  Of course, that was obvious, wasn’t it?  Maybe time to trim…

-Veyron

Tiessa and I were, uh, playing around last night.  Yes…  That sort of playing around.  ::giggles::  Anyway, someone popped on my radar and then stayed there.  Close, very close.  He was above us.  Tiessa’s dungeon is below the landing point, which I suspect is intentional on - um - someone’s part….

Anyhow, our little voyeur decided to loiter.  Now, lesson number one.  If you’re going to be a voyeur, the point is to be discrete.  Unless of course, it is assumed to be an invitation to observe.  At least have the decency to use a spycam from a distance… 

Now, I remember this dweeb from another time, and he had the groups on him that he looked like a lawyer, so I decided to - hehe - play with him…

[2008/04/29 22:23]  Tiessa Montgolfier: go ahead pet, you know you can tell me your deepest kinks
[2008/04/29 22:25]  You: mmmm… My deepest kink is to fuck a lawyer up the ass until a cock comes out his mouth…..

[2008/04/29 22:25]  Tiessa Montgolfier: my my - that is a big cock
[2008/04/29 22:25]  Veyron Supercharge nods….
[2008/04/29 22:26]  You: I need to find a lawyer though, or a paralegal might do in a pinch

Thirty seconds later, an IM comes in for me:

[2008/04/29 22:26]  Questor Yifu: i am a lawyer

Yes Questor, yes you are, in all its glory….  As Lillie would say, welcome to Google.

-Giggling Veyron

Most of you know what SLex or Second Life Sex is.  What a lot of people don’t know much about is the BSDM scene.  BSDM is an abbreviation derived from the terms bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.  A lot of words, but what does it all mean?  I’d like to write a few posting about BSDM from a Second Life perspective.  I’m not an expert on it by any stretch, but it seems that there is a lot of confusion and misunderstanding of what is going on.  I want to dispel some myths and maybe help some avies out.

One key to BSDM is Second Life is the understanding that it is basically safe.  While you can allow yourself to come to mental grief, you are safe from physical harm - at least as far as I can figure out.  Another key point is that it allows you to explore some of the more extreme activities in a safe fashion.

Before you get started in SL BSDM, I think there’s a few things you need to have to be a real part of the experience.  First it’s not for a quick bump and grind.  If you want a quick fix, it’s a bad route to go.  It is a lot of mind games and role playing.  Sometimes devoid of physical sex, but not necessarily free of eroticism.  It’s also mature, adult behavior.  Beavis and Butthead need not apply.  It also is an extreme form of trust and love, which on the outside, makes no sense, but you’ll see.

For BSDM to work at it’s best in Second Life, you need to reach a state, which I think most addicts reach, of where your avie is either mentally another person, or almost an extension of yourself.  The OtherLand Group had a good post on how we feel our avatar.  If you think that you can identify with your avatar, you can enjoy BSDM.  If it’s just a portal into SL, then this isn’t for you.

So, you’ve done the SLex thing in SL and after a while and the old bump and grind might have lost it’s charm.  You’re looking for something new and interesting.  BSDM is it.  There’s all kinds of forms of it and all sorts of ranges of it.  I plan on talking about most of it, but before we get there, we need to talk about some terms.

First, there’s the Dominate or Dom.  The dom is the person or avie who is nominally in charge.  Nominally?  Yup, you’ll see.  They usually have some aggressive looking outfit on and maybe some dangerous looking implement to enforce their rules.

Next, there’s the Submissive or Sub.  The sub is the person or avie who takes instructions from the dom.  The sub is usually in charge of the situation, sort of.  Huh?  You’ll see….  They’re the one usually running around with little to nothing on and a collar around their neck usually.

Then you have the Top and the Bottom.  These are hidden sub groups.  The top is the one doing all the work and the bottom is the one enjoying the work of the top.  Most doms are bottoms and look for submissive tops.  Which of course seems to make no sense.

Lastly, there’s the Switch.  The switch is a person or avie who alternates between being a dom and a sub.  Most of us in reality are switches.  Think about it for a while.  You go, “Yes sir.”, to the police officer giving you a traffic ticket, and you chew out an idiot who cut you off driving 5 minutes later.  I like to personally switch when I play because it is a mentally healthy thing to do…  Again, you’ll see.  I also think that switches make the best doms and subs because they know what excites the other.

Switches are also in my mind the safest to play with, as when they are playing each part they know what the other partner is thinking and where things might go.  Some avies are secret switches, using alts.  This is sometimes because a dom’s subs cannot handle seeing their dom as a sub.  It can cause great angst to the sub.  I’ll explain at some point.

Lillie has a pretty good detailed explanation of these definitions.

Right now you’re thinking, this is not what I see.  I see some guy with some girl on a chain ordering her around.  How is she in charge?  This is the amusing part of BSDM, almost nothing is as it seems to an outsider.

Closing this post out, the key to this all is that it is a mental game.  It is not abuse or torture - it might look like it, but it’s not.  Although some SL relationships fall outside of what I’m talking about and may be true torture (or some near facsimile).

-Veyron

Checking each other out…. Seems they both have something new on….
posted by Veyron Supercharge on the Dump Rezzable using a blogHUD : [blogHUD permalink]

To please Mistress….
posted by Veyron Supercharge on Mournful using a blogHUD : [blogHUD permalink]

Lulu’s cuffs and gags have an amusing feature. They keep score. Not just your score, everyone’s score. This is the leaderboard for the current time people have spent with a gag in. Now, if you look closely, the leader has 360 hours with a gag. Now, understand this means no talking. Once you talk, it stops tracking time. Thus making 360 hours pretty impressive. The number 20 position has almost 29 hours…. -Veyron
posted by Veyron Supercharge on CITY NOIR using a blogHUD : [blogHUD permalink]

Going to try to make it to First Slave… Going to try to do 24 hours without speaking. This is going to be tough…. -Veyron
posted by Veyron Supercharge on South Gate using a blogHUD : [blogHUD permalink]

Is it me or does the lovely Zoe Connolly’s chest seem a bit bigger these days…. Maybe it’s just me….

Before:

After:

When do I get my chance to play with Zoe’s…  sliders? 

-Veyron

In an ongoing job of trying to break WordPress, I’ve added translation capabilities and OpenID commenting features.  Why?  Uhh….  Does this knob go up to 11?  Oh, and I added a count of spam Defensio is catching to the bottom.  Some of the spam comments are pretty amusing.

-Veyron

In spite of all of the problems with Second Life lately, I just wanted to state, for the record, I really love this place.  I really love the people and the platform - really.  No, I’m serious. 

I think most of the people who do the bitching and complaining, rightfully so, probably feel the same way.  They see what could be done if only a few things were a bit better….

::sigh::

-Veyron

Tiessa and I were shopping around Second Life the other day, and we came across a - uh - device that vacuum sealed an avatar - for kinky purposes. Now, I thought that’s amusing - only in Second Life. Apparently not….

-Veyron

One of the weirder things I have found playing the submissive part is that I kinda find being gagged to be fun.  I know, it sounds weird.  I can usually talk up a storm when I’m in the mood, but I find that playing the submissive and being gagged to be really quite a good match.  It’s like the chocolate sauce on the vanilla ice cream.  mmmmm… 

Part of the attraction of being a sub is the removal of decisions, and thus responsibility.  The gag just means you can’t complain about it anymore.  Combined with the Restrained Life client the Lulu gags are really the best.  You can still do some basic emotes, but you can’t IM and certainly not talk.  It makes for interesting conversations….

On the flip side, playing the dom with a gagged submissive is amusing too.  The sub can’t really complain about what’s going on, and there’s certainly no back talk.

I actually sought out being gagged.  My first experience with it was with Tiessa.  She was gagged for a few hours and I thought it was silly.  I thought it was silly for a long time, until I got the urge to try it.

In case you’re wondering….  The Lulu gags do have a mini game so to speak in them.  You can do a ‘trial’.  In the trial you must keep quite for a set amount of time to move into a new circle.  I’m sorta competitive, so it was like a challenge to meet.  I’m up to the Slave circle with my ball gag.  That’s 14 hours of online time, quiet.  I’ve been thinking of psyching myself to try the top First Slave circle, but as I recall it’s almost 30 hours.

I’d recommend to any submissive to try it out and at least make it to the Novice circle.  That’s two hours of being gagged.

In case you’re wondering, I don’t walk away - except for a few minutes now and then - while I’m doing a trial.  So, that’s 14 hours of real connected time.

I think that if I finished successfully the First Slave circle, the submissive part of me might be satiated for a while.  But maybe that’s a good thing because someone else might want to switch soon…  :)  But there is the leader board of gagged submissive’s at Lulu’s hideout.  Which in itself is a temptation to try to make.  Everyone should stop by there and see the board - you’ll be amazed.  :)  But maybe that’s a good thing because someone else might want to switch soon…  :)  What’s more amazing is that if the gag thinks you cheated or purpose or accident, you’re done.  The clock stops and you have to start over.

Some thing like:  “v/me looks at the wall”.  That typo costs you dearly.  Oh, and it knows if you’re cheating, “/me thinks about leaving.”  Pop - that’s cheating.  Give that bitch a spanking! 

-Veyron

I found a BlogHUD blogger who is trying out the Banesuit. This might be interesting to see how it goes. I wish Spikeheel Starr luck with her banishment.

I’ve heard rumors of other bloggers interesting in giving it a whirl.

Any volunteers?

-Veyron