Comments on: Who are you? http://blog.veyronsupercharge.com/2007/06/08/who-are-you/ Veyron's Adventures in Second Life Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:32:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Tweeze http://blog.veyronsupercharge.com/2007/06/08/who-are-you/#comment-168 Tweeze Sat, 09 Jun 2007 08:33:00 +0000 http://blog.veyronsupercharge.com/2007/06/08/who-are-you/#comment-168 Veyron, while I do agree with most of what you said, I'm not sure I agree with the reasons you said it. It seems like you let yourself down in some way, and you seem disappointed. I think I can relate to that, because I often blame myself for my flaws, especially when I do something I promise myself not to do. We all are our own worst/best critics. :-)<br/><br/>I don't fully agree with the notion of taking everyone in Second Life at face value, however. Sure, some people present themselves to be similar to their real selves. But, there are also people that take the concept of having an avatar to the extreme and fully embody themselves as someone/thing completely fictional and fantastical. Of course, there are a few degrees of separation between the two and you don't always fall into one camp or the other. I wouldn't view them all as just avatars, though, so maybe we shouldn't take them at face value (because some of them don't even have faces!).<br/><br/>I also can relate (as I'm sure most people as well can) about having bad experiences with online relationships. Should you rule them out altogether, because you've tasted a few bad apples? I'm not trying to convince you to change your mind, but I will say that I swore the same thing to myself a while back... and I broke that promise to myself. I'm glad I broke it, too! Someone found me, and turned my SLife completely around. I've never looked back, since, and I know that it would've never happened (or would've been very difficult) had I not broke my own rule.<br/><br/>I somewhat agree with your notion that inside a fantasy world, reality is a fantasy... But, inside a fantasy world, there are <b>many</b> (alternate) fantasies and only one of them is actually real and leads you out of the metaverse. I digress. What I mean to say is that inside a fantasy world, there is more reality than we'd like to admit. We all have our own personalities (even if/when we're roleplaying). We all choose our own words to communicate our ideas and thoughts (unless we're clicking on someone's Xcite body part, and in that case its canned verbage). We all create our own avatars -- and I have yet to see two avatars look exactly alike (except a pair of twins I met once, and they were identical on purpose). Above all, we all tend to act out our own fantasies in the fantasy world (what better place!?!) -- our fantasies tend to exhibit who we are on the way to achieving our dreams and having fun.<br/>If someone doesn't believe you are who you say are... well, they should probably be gently reminded that we all are in a fantasy world and there are times and places for touches of reality at each our own choosing.<br/><br/>Don't let anyone force you into a position to compromise your own values. Even if it means to prove them wrong. :-) Veyron, while I do agree with most of what you said, I’m not sure I agree with the reasons you said it. It seems like you let yourself down in some way, and you seem disappointed. I think I can relate to that, because I often blame myself for my flaws, especially when I do something I promise myself not to do. We all are our own worst/best critics. :-)

I don’t fully agree with the notion of taking everyone in Second Life at face value, however. Sure, some people present themselves to be similar to their real selves. But, there are also people that take the concept of having an avatar to the extreme and fully embody themselves as someone/thing completely fictional and fantastical. Of course, there are a few degrees of separation between the two and you don’t always fall into one camp or the other. I wouldn’t view them all as just avatars, though, so maybe we shouldn’t take them at face value (because some of them don’t even have faces!).

I also can relate (as I’m sure most people as well can) about having bad experiences with online relationships. Should you rule them out altogether, because you’ve tasted a few bad apples? I’m not trying to convince you to change your mind, but I will say that I swore the same thing to myself a while back… and I broke that promise to myself. I’m glad I broke it, too! Someone found me, and turned my SLife completely around. I’ve never looked back, since, and I know that it would’ve never happened (or would’ve been very difficult) had I not broke my own rule.

I somewhat agree with your notion that inside a fantasy world, reality is a fantasy… But, inside a fantasy world, there are many (alternate) fantasies and only one of them is actually real and leads you out of the metaverse. I digress. What I mean to say is that inside a fantasy world, there is more reality than we’d like to admit. We all have our own personalities (even if/when we’re roleplaying). We all choose our own words to communicate our ideas and thoughts (unless we’re clicking on someone’s Xcite body part, and in that case its canned verbage). We all create our own avatars — and I have yet to see two avatars look exactly alike (except a pair of twins I met once, and they were identical on purpose). Above all, we all tend to act out our own fantasies in the fantasy world (what better place!?!) — our fantasies tend to exhibit who we are on the way to achieving our dreams and having fun.
If someone doesn’t believe you are who you say are… well, they should probably be gently reminded that we all are in a fantasy world and there are times and places for touches of reality at each our own choosing.

Don’t let anyone force you into a position to compromise your own values. Even if it means to prove them wrong. :-)

]]> By: Tiana Meriman http://blog.veyronsupercharge.com/2007/06/08/who-are-you/#comment-167 Tiana Meriman Fri, 08 Jun 2007 23:44:00 +0000 http://blog.veyronsupercharge.com/2007/06/08/who-are-you/#comment-167 you are doing the right thing hun ^^ dont let anyone pressure you and you dont have to prove yourself to anyone.<br/><br/>i let someone hear my voice before and the guy promised me it would never go further but once i did then he wanted pics, he wanted videos her wanted to hear my voice again. it never ended so i kicked him out of my life and i never did that mistake again.<br/><br/>i'm at a point that real life doesnt exist when i'm in sl and will only share little bits with people i care a lot about. also the people i talk to in sl i dont talk to out of game. like on yahoo messenger and such, i did that twice and over time i started getting annoyed of talking to often. its better to just keep it in sl.<br/><br/>and i think that contract idea is a great one ^^ you are doing the right thing hun ^^ dont let anyone pressure you and you dont have to prove yourself to anyone.

i let someone hear my voice before and the guy promised me it would never go further but once i did then he wanted pics, he wanted videos her wanted to hear my voice again. it never ended so i kicked him out of my life and i never did that mistake again.

i’m at a point that real life doesnt exist when i’m in sl and will only share little bits with people i care a lot about. also the people i talk to in sl i dont talk to out of game. like on yahoo messenger and such, i did that twice and over time i started getting annoyed of talking to often. its better to just keep it in sl.

and i think that contract idea is a great one ^^

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