Dancing with the devil will do it all the time….  Veyron dacing with Codebastard at her opening party.  Codie doing her own sleep deprivation experiment to see how kinky she can get. 

-Veyron

Moi looking a bit pensive in South Gate…  Meow…

-Veyron

I think it’s time to hit the beach! :)  Oh, look, it’s a red swimsuit for Codie…

-Veyron

Happy Fourth of July!

-Veyron

Yes, I can be impressed every now and then.  Seems that something might be better than Twitter and Pownce, Plurk.  It’s fun.  Give it a try… 

-Veyron

I saw it forsale at a discounter and ya know, the picture seems pretty familiar but I can’t quite place it.  It’s right on the tip of my tongue.  Sometimes I think I’m loosing a grip on reality….

-Veyron

Last time I talked about the basics of SL BDSM.  This post is to talk about how everything to an outsider looks so wrong, yet to someone familar with BDSM it is so right.  In your basic SL BDSM relationship, there’s a Master or Mistress or the Dominate aka the Dom and the Submissive or Sub.  There is an equation at work here.  In a “normal” relationship, things are shared more or less equally.  In a BDSM relationship, it is not equal, but the sum still comes out the same.

Huh?

What that means is the submissive gives up control to the dominate in exchange for safety or something similar (love, lust, etc).  The dominate does not get this for free through, the dom has to take responsibility for the sub.  That means, doing most (if not all) of the thinking, the planning, and all social calendar planning.  In almost all areas.

For the submissive, this is kind of liberating.  It is a lot of fun.  Ignorance is bliss, but here you have someone who loves you and is going to take care of you, do things for you, and so on.  All you have to do is stroke their ego, do what ever they want (to a point), and try to get into trouble (what? - more on that later).  Subs are very passive aggressive.  Passive by nature and definition, aggressive because they know what they want and will manipulate to get it.  Really good submissive are evilly passive aggressive, which of course is a big turn on to the… dom.

The dominate, or dom, has a big job here.  They have to do all of the thinking.  They have someone watching them all the time who might on the surface be adoring them, but they know they are smirking underneath that veneer (where’s that gag?).  They have to take care of that sub, maybe even financially (only sometimes).  It can be rather draining.  In exchange, they have someone who is always willing to stroke their ego, and probably stroke a lot more.  They always have a willing partner and someone to play with.

Of course now, it’s very obvious that the submissive is the one in charge.  :)  Doms are usually insecure because they are always thinking ahead to try to do the right thing; they can’t count on the submissive to give them valid feedback or even worse start to manipulate them….  The submissives are of course the stronger of the two, they put up with the dom’s weakness’s because they love them so much and want to take care of them.

Confused yet Alice?

It’s a complex relationship.  And it’s really a game.  Played with a wink and a nudge.  It’s a role playing game.   The more real you play it, the more exciting it gets.  Doms and subs try hard to stay in character and not break the spell.  There are lots of unwritten and unspoken rules.

Now everyone it seems wants to be a sub (or secretly does).  Being the Dom is fun to, mostly because you can do what you want….

So, how do you get started in SL BDSM (which is not like RL BDSM).  First you need a partner, duh.  Find someone preferrably who has done this before.  You have to find someone you trust and at minimum like.  It’s easier to be a sub, because there’s not as much thinking involved, so start there.  It may be hard to find a Master or Mistress.  Most good ones are booked full.  Most bad ones are not.

Say you have found a partner to play with.  Set a very defined time frame to play in.  Start with 1 or 2 weeks.  Set a time it ends.  This is important so you know it will be over at some point.  Then exchange a kink sheet.  These are sheets that rate things that turn each person on or not.  This saves time and prevents misunderstandings.  (Oh, and everyone lies about at least couple of things on the kink sheet.  The fun part is finding the ones you’ve lied about.)

You should also work out a minor system which might just happen on it’s own to subversively communicate yes and no.  For example my pet blushes when she really means yes.

Also pick a safe word.  Both the dom and the sub may need to use one.  Why would a dom need one?  Trust me, sometimes a pet can go pretty far….  The safe word stops all activity.  Some couples stop it for the day, so that it is not misused, but also so that if someone has come to the point of using the safe word, the fun and the game is over.

Lastly, you’ll need some basic toys.  A BDSM collar is a minimum for the pet.  The collar is also a symbol of ownership and a subversive symbol of love, much like a wedding ring.

It is a lot of fun.  After you play around with it for a while, you’ll be upset you’ve missed out on so much.  If you’re not having a good time, don’t give up.  Sometimes it is because your partner is either not good, or is inexperienced.

Next post…  good sub and bad dom - or is that the other way around?

-Veyron

People you would not guess

The copyright police can’t save you now!  I’m not sure if this is good or bad, perhaps I’m just indifferent.  What does it mean?  I’m not sure.  On one hand, it might mean nothing.  Which is probably true.  On the other hand, it might make everything in Second Life unprotected content - which is unlikely.  Seems to cover wireframed content.

Now if I could just get lucky and get quoted by the Associated Press, I could collect like $12.50. 

-Veyron

As you may have noticed, the site and blog have been down for the last few days.  Things are still not 100%.  I had some “issues” with my last hosting provider and I’ve moved my site.  I’ll post details shortly.  I have most of the blog and site back up and running, but not entirely.

IM me or email me if you find things that are broken.

-Veyron

For my own amusement and since this is something I had thought about for sometime I am going to run a photo contest.  The judges are myself and two other anonymous avatars.  The subject is my favorite subject, me.  (giggles)  The prizes are:  1st prize, L$8000 and you can take a picture of me kissing you….  ;)  2nd prize, L$3000 and you can take a picture of me kissing you, and 3rd prize, L$1500 and yup, ditto.

Rules:

1. The primary subject is yours truly, however, you may add other avatars, or things.  If yours truly is not the primary subject, you could be disqualified.
2. No x-rated stuff.  What does that mean?  Now, if it would get an R rated in a movie theater, it will pass.  I am the final judge of what that is.
3. Each artist gets at most 2 hours with me for the purpose of photography.  If you manage to sneak a candid shot of me and use it for the contest, so be it - fair is fair in that regard.
4. You can email me to schedule a time for a photo shoot.  Use your time wisely.  If you want to take a set of photos, email a list of things you want to accomplish or a plan.
5. I will make myself available on Wednesdays from 7pm to 9:30pm SLT.
6. I will assist the photographer in putting on what they want me to wear or what ideas they have for me to wear from my inventory.  However, the photographer should have in mind how they want me to look and pose before we start.
7. I can change my look pretty substantially, from mermaid, neko, evil neko, angel, demoness, etc.  Rule is that my shape stays the same.  If you change my shape, then I’m just like any other avatar, and then what’s the point?
8. You may use any photo editing tool or trick you choose to use.  Have at it.
9. Contest entries must be emailed to me as a jpeg or png.  The words Veyron Photo Contest 2008 have to appear in the subject.  Put your avatar’s name in the subject and in the body of the email.  If you fail to do this, you might be disqualified.  Photos should be at least 1024×768, if not larger.
10. You own the rights to photos, but I own the rights to use the entries as I choose.  I’m not sure what that means from a legal stand point, but the gist is you’re giving me rights to use the photo as I choose, but then you can as well.  You can use the photo for your own promotions, I do not care.
11. You can submit up to three photos.
12. Any outfits or extra bits you want me to wear that I do not own, you will need to supply.  I can return them when I am done, I will do so.  If cannot, I will alas have to keep whatever it is.  I won’t be refunding L$ for an expenditure you have to make for a photo shoot.
13. You can take the photos anywhere in Second Life as long as Rule #2 is not violated.
14. What is a winning shot?  The one I and the panel like the most….  :)  Creativity will count.
15. Contest starts now.  You cannot use a picture that has been posted (or a derivative picture) in the past.  It has to be a new picture of yours truly.
16. Contest ends July 11th, unless I cannot accommodate all of the requests for photo shoots.  I will update the contest status on my blog.
17. Rules are subject to change.  Gaming the rules will subject you to a humiliating blog post by me. 
18. Winning posts will be posted to my blog and probably else where.  Non-winning posts may also be posted.

Questions?

-Veyron

Okay so I’m not always posting, and I’m not always doing things I should be doing, but hey, I have some good excuses… (pulls out a note card) See, I have them written down somewhere here….

Anyway, Fiona King emailed me a posting on 50 Tips and Tricks to Create a Learning Space in Second Life last week and I have finally guilted myself into blog posting it.

(Waves at Fiona.

-Veyron

I know it’s a Faustian deal you make to get things like GMail from Google, but it has an uncanny ability to put those tiny one liner ads just above your mailbox that seem to hit you right at some critical body part.  Like I just send Tiessa.. (giggle) an email.  My ad I get is:

Not that I need a book on this, but dang it…. 

Aternox seems to think so… Tiessa is worried about the grammar. Tiessa seems to think that *I* follow her around wanted to say “Want to Fuck” all the time. This is far from the truth. (giggles) Okay, mostly far from the truth. The tragic reality of the situation is that when you have to remind each other that you need to put the physical attraction before the mental attraction so that you’re not too tired later in the evening to act on the physical attraction, you might have an more than just a temporary thing going. (And if you can decode that last sentence, you get a gold star for the day.)

I’m hoping that I win this vote….

-Veyron

Yeah! 37 Hours, and 1 minutes….
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Tiessa and I were, uh, playing around last night.  Yes…  That sort of playing around.  ::giggles::  Anyway, someone popped on my radar and then stayed there.  Close, very close.  He was above us.  Tiessa’s dungeon is below the landing point, which I suspect is intentional on - um - someone’s part….

Anyhow, our little voyeur decided to loiter.  Now, lesson number one.  If you’re going to be a voyeur, the point is to be discrete.  Unless of course, it is assumed to be an invitation to observe.  At least have the decency to use a spycam from a distance… 

Now, I remember this dweeb from another time, and he had the groups on him that he looked like a lawyer, so I decided to - hehe - play with him…

[2008/04/29 22:23]  Tiessa Montgolfier: go ahead pet, you know you can tell me your deepest kinks
[2008/04/29 22:25]  You: mmmm… My deepest kink is to fuck a lawyer up the ass until a cock comes out his mouth…..

[2008/04/29 22:25]  Tiessa Montgolfier: my my - that is a big cock
[2008/04/29 22:25]  Veyron Supercharge nods….
[2008/04/29 22:26]  You: I need to find a lawyer though, or a paralegal might do in a pinch

Thirty seconds later, an IM comes in for me:

[2008/04/29 22:26]  Questor Yifu: i am a lawyer

Yes Questor, yes you are, in all its glory….  As Lillie would say, welcome to Google.

-Giggling Veyron