Charles Darwin suspected they might, and decided to investigate it.  I know Tiessa has been researching this for some time.  Gee and here I thought that red heads had all the good times….

On a mildly curious note, has anyone noticed a real difference between hair color and how often you get flirted with?

-Veyron

Delta to Become Only Major U.S. Airline to Offer Broadband Wi-Fi Access on Entire Domestic Mainline Fleet woohoo!!  Veyron wants to become the first to make it to the mile high SLEX club.  mmmm….  First Class…  recline the seat way back…  30,000 feet.  Where’s Zoe when you need here?

-Veyron

Most of you know what SLex or Second Life Sex is.  What a lot of people don’t know much about is the BSDM scene.  BSDM is an abbreviation derived from the terms bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.  A lot of words, but what does it all mean?  I’d like to write a few posting about BSDM from a Second Life perspective.  I’m not an expert on it by any stretch, but it seems that there is a lot of confusion and misunderstanding of what is going on.  I want to dispel some myths and maybe help some avies out.

One key to BSDM is Second Life is the understanding that it is basically safe.  While you can allow yourself to come to mental grief, you are safe from physical harm – at least as far as I can figure out.  Another key point is that it allows you to explore some of the more extreme activities in a safe fashion.

Before you get started in SL BSDM, I think there’s a few things you need to have to be a real part of the experience.  First it’s not for a quick bump and grind.  If you want a quick fix, it’s a bad route to go.  It is a lot of mind games and role playing.  Sometimes devoid of physical sex, but not necessarily free of eroticism.  It’s also mature, adult behavior.  Beavis and Butthead need not apply.  It also is an extreme form of trust and love, which on the outside, makes no sense, but you’ll see.

For BSDM to work at it’s best in Second Life, you need to reach a state, which I think most addicts reach, of where your avie is either mentally another person, or almost an extension of yourself.  The OtherLand Group had a good post on how we feel our avatar.  If you think that you can identify with your avatar, you can enjoy BSDM.  If it’s just a portal into SL, then this isn’t for you.

So, you’ve done the SLex thing in SL and after a while and the old bump and grind might have lost it’s charm.  You’re looking for something new and interesting.  BSDM is it.  There’s all kinds of forms of it and all sorts of ranges of it.  I plan on talking about most of it, but before we get there, we need to talk about some terms.

First, there’s the Dominate or Dom.  The dom is the person or avie who is nominally in charge.  Nominally?  Yup, you’ll see.  They usually have some aggressive looking outfit on and maybe some dangerous looking implement to enforce their rules.

Next, there’s the Submissive or Sub.  The sub is the person or avie who takes instructions from the dom.  The sub is usually in charge of the situation, sort of.  Huh?  You’ll see….  They’re the one usually running around with little to nothing on and a collar around their neck usually.

Then you have the Top and the Bottom.  These are hidden sub groups.  The top is the one doing all the work and the bottom is the one enjoying the work of the top.  Most doms are bottoms and look for submissive tops.  Which of course seems to make no sense.

Lastly, there’s the Switch.  The switch is a person or avie who alternates between being a dom and a sub.  Most of us in reality are switches.  Think about it for a while.  You go, “Yes sir.”, to the police officer giving you a traffic ticket, and you chew out an idiot who cut you off driving 5 minutes later.  I like to personally switch when I play because it is a mentally healthy thing to do…  Again, you’ll see.  I also think that switches make the best doms and subs because they know what excites the other.

Switches are also in my mind the safest to play with, as when they are playing each part they know what the other partner is thinking and where things might go.  Some avies are secret switches, using alts.  This is sometimes because a dom’s subs cannot handle seeing their dom as a sub.  It can cause great angst to the sub.  I’ll explain at some point.

Lillie has a pretty good detailed explanation of these definitions.

Right now you’re thinking, this is not what I see.  I see some guy with some girl on a chain ordering her around.  How is she in charge?  This is the amusing part of BSDM, almost nothing is as it seems to an outsider.

Closing this post out, the key to this all is that it is a mental game.  It is not abuse or torture – it might look like it, but it’s not.  Although some SL relationships fall outside of what I’m talking about and may be true torture (or some near facsimile).

-Veyron

Mmmm…. I wonder if this is distracting. At least there’s no audio.

-Veyron

Yes, it’s true….  For a very limited time, you can win Veyron at auction.  mmmm, no, and it’s not just a picture this time.  Veyron is going to be up on the auction block for umm a charity auction in the City of Lost Angels this Friday night at 5pm SLT.  It’s part of She Juniper’s Zodiac Lounge Slave auction. 

So, what do you have to do to bid on Veyron?  Well, the you probably should know a bit about the City of Lost Angels and role playing.  Pickup a CCS hud in the Lost Angel’s sim and read a bit more about it on the web site.  Then when the time comes, head down to the auction block and bid to win!  Half of the proceeds go to support the City operations.  Then the lucky winner gets to – ahem – play with Veyron for 24 hours of role playing.  And Veyron will just have to play along with the winner.

Lucky for the winner, I’m going to be confined to a hotel room ALL weekend and probably bored with nothing else to do….   Oh, and you don’t have to take your 24 hours right away, but this weekend would be an opportune time.

Play can be in the CoLA sim or the South Gate sim.  Veyron and Tiessa have some land in the South Gate sim.

I wonder who’s going to bid….

-Veyron

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Don’tcha just hate it when someone tells a joke, but screws up the punch line?  Worse, someone tells a joke, but forgets the punch line?  How about this…  Knows something that actually, you might have sort of a kinky desire to know because, well, you might just need to know, but won’t tell you….  This is one of those times.  To ahem, cut to the chase, here’s the article:

US and Russian astronauts have had sex in space for separate research programmes on how human beings might survive years in orbit, according to a book published yesterday.

Pierre Kohler, a respected French scientific writer, says in The Final Mission: Mir, The Human Adventure that the subject is taboo both at Nasa and at mission control in Moscow, but that cosmic couplings have taken place.

“The issue of sex in space is a serious one,” he says. “The experiments carried out so far relate to missions planned for married couples on the future International Space Station, the successor to Mir. Scientists need to know how far sexual relations are possible without gravity.”

He cites a confidential Nasa report on a space shuttle mission in 1996. A project codenamed STS-XX was to explore sexual positions possible in a weightless atmosphere.

Twenty positions were tested by computer simulation to obtain the best 10, he says. “Two guinea pigs then tested them in real zero-gravity conditions. The results were videotaped but are considered so sensitive that even Nasa was only given a censored version.”

Only four positions were found possible without “mechanical assistance”. The other six needed a special elastic belt and inflatable tunnel, like an open-ended sleeping bag.

Mr Kohler says: “One of the principal findings was that the classic so-called missionary position, which is so easy on earth when gravity pushes one downwards, is simply not possible.”

Okay, now it’s deliciously lacking in detail.  No, frustrating lacking in detail.   Dang it.  Okay,  so they left in the boring, obvious white-bread part, missionary position didn’t work.  Wow, that was exciting.  Leaving the rest of us to try and figure out the rest.  And who were the lucky pair who got to try this “experiment”?

Dang it, I need to file a Freedom of Information Act request on this.   I wonder if we got the new physics engine in Second Life going if there are any possibilities here….

-Veyron

Those WoW players are more perverted than us Second Life players. This machinima video for sure confirms it.

-Veyron

This is a great post by lashxevious, How not to Charm a girl in SL. Covering some obvious points like moving too fast, cheesy lame Casanovary, IM whoring, Muscley-Caveman-Fabio drool, and of course Desecrating Dante. I haven’t seen too many of the big ugly out of proportion guys. You know with the giant arms and shoulders and tiny little heads? ::sigh:: Maybe that should be a contest?

-Veyron

It’s interesting how American English and British English are different. As Churchill once said, "Two nations separated by a common language." Amanda used an interesting term on Pownce today, and I actually had to look it up… "On the pull". An interesting idiom. I found this pretty amusing site, the English-to-American Dictionary.

pull v. The art of distracting the opposite sex. Pulling is conceptually very similar to hooking up. To be on the pull is a less proactive version of sharking. Single males and females are almost all on the pull but will deny it fervently and pretend to be terribly surprised when eventually it pays off.

I wonder if they have a Second Life to First Life Dictionary anywhere…

-Veyron

Could it be that World of Warcraft players are more perverted than the center of all known virtual sin, Second Life?  I mean clearly, as far as I know, there’s no sexgens, no xcite, and certainly no deviant devpose gear in WoW.  But maybe we’re missing out here.  I mean, in this global virtual arms race of perversity that we find ourselves engaged in, this paladin from WoW seems to have found a winning system.

I’ve noticed a lot of complaints about paladins lately, with regard to their low dps and limited combat options. But what players are forgetting is the main reason Blizzard programmed paladins. Paladins were not designed to be hybrid tanks/healers, as many claim. Instead, paladins were designed to be played while downloading pornography.

Paladins have roughly zero amount of combat interaction, thus making them the perfect character to play while downloading massive amounts of hardcore pornography. Simply target a monster, hit “1″, and minimize your window. Then sit back and enjoy amazing girl on girl action.

Because a paladin takes about one full minute to kill a monster, you can leisurely browse the erotic and pornographic fruits of the internet, without much concern over your paladin’s welfare. After a minute, I go back to WoW, and usually my paladin is still alive and ready to loot the corpse. This is what makes grinding so pleasurable and convenient for me; the ability to simultaneously watch girls have sex with each other and level up at the same time. I doubt any other class has such an elegantly designed system, and I applaud Blizzard for their foresight in crafting a character that I can play with while playing with myself.

DPS? Who needs it? The quicker I kill something, the less time I have to watch my boobies. Combat interactivity? Overrated. Id much rather interact with the girls writhing on my computer screen. Yes, a paladin was created for the sole purpose of surviving a fight while you stream hot porn directly to your computer. That is why we have the high armor class, the healing ability, and the low, low, DPS.

As for PVP, nothing is better than getting into battlegrounds and soaking up the honor points while I watch girls take their clothes off for money. Only the minimum of interaction is necessary for a paladin to perform, and it is this very quality that I love most about my paladin. I doubt rogues get any time to watch porn while trying to vanish and rack up combo points, and I bet shamans havent seen a single naked breast while figuring out what totem to throw down before choosing which shock they are going to cast next.

In addition to grinding, we have several defensive options during combat that also allow us flexibility to download porn. Hammer of Justice allows us a quick 6 second glimpse at naked women while our opponent is stunned, and Divine Shield allows a leisurely 12 seconds of quality right-hand time. Indeed, paladins have cornered the market on the pornography during playtime of World of Warcraft gameplay.

It saddens me that many paladins do not take advantage of the main functionality of their character, and are in fact lobbying for increased DPS or more combat options, unnecessary frivolities that would only harm our pornography downloading efficiency. Instead, we should thank the fine programmers at Blizzard for crafting a character that is great to grind with while grinding your loins.

- level 59 paladin named Genkaku

What does this all mean?  We need to take our perversity up a notch or two.  Clearly the gauntlet has been thrown down here and the residents of Second Life need to rise (ahem) to the occasion.  I know SL residents have never shirked from their new ability to find and create new and innovative kinky devices, poses, and playthings.  So, let’s step up here.

-Veyron

So Law and Order: SVU has a show with a virtual world in it. And surprise, surprise, anyone who uses or plays in it is a sicko. I didn’t bother watching it because the plot was predictable, but Zoe did, and confirmed my suspicions. Of course now, we all are kinda perverted in a normal sick sort of way. But in a much better healthier out in the virtual open way. So let’s compare Second Life to Real Life.

Real Life has life and death

Second Life has prim babies that look like Pokemons and if you die you get teleported home.

Real Life has violent crimes

Second Life’s idea of a violent crime is giant penis’s being virtually flung at you on stage, embarrassing you.

Real Life has finiancial crimes and fraud

 Anyone dumb enough to believe they were going to get 400% return on an investment with no risk….  well, you knew better, didn’t you?

Real Life has cops, lawyers and judges

Second Life has none….  ummm, but we do have Linden Labs (how do we get those cops, lawyers and judges now?)

Real Life has people starving, homeless, and in poor living conditions

Avatars do not need, food, water, light, or air (even can go into orbit).   They can survive falls from incredible heights.  Survive being thrown in hot lava.  Being folded up like an origami doll.  Even walk around with your hair up your ass.  Wearing shoes from Dark Eden for extended periods of time without permanent back injury.  And dang, they don’t even need to go potty.

Real Life men usually have one orgasm, and roll over and either go to sleep or turn on the TV (or would secretly like to).

 Second Life men enjoy demonstrating their prowess and want to make sure their partner is having a good time and well satisfied.

Real Life primping for a party up can take hours.

Second Life primping involves shopping through your inventory, clicking a few buttons, and waiting for them to rez.  Shoes that would themselves take 20 minutes to put on take 10 seconds in Second Life.

Real Life tanning requires multiple sessions outside or in a tanning studio.

Second Life requires you to change your skins.  And you can decide if you want tan lines or not in seconds.

Real Life criminalizes or ostracizes lots of deviant sexual behavior.

Second Life usually rates it on a sliding quality scale.

Real Life takes itself very seriously.

Second Life tries to take itself seriously, but can never quite wipe the silly smirk off it’s face from the that impossible sexual escapade last night.

Real Life has campers.  Like in national parks and places of great beauty.

Second Life has campers in casinos speakeasies, clubs and empty malls.

Real Life sex carries (albit small now) risk of getting a STD and maybe even dying from it.

In Second Life you might make a mess on or around your computer.

In Real Life if I go into a dangerous place I might get really hurt.

Second Life’s idea of a dangerous place is a sim when you get notice it’s about to be restarted.

Real Life has corporate consumerism fueling massive expenditure of money on lots of frivolous items.

Second Life has mom & pop consumerism fueling massive expenditure of  a toy currency on lots of frivolous virtual items.  (Okay, I think that one is a wash….)

But let’s be clear, to paraphrase the NRA, avatars don’t make perverts, people make perverts.  And since I’m an avatar, I’m in the clear.  (I like that logic…)

-Veyron

A prominent news source has an article about a study on casual sex.  According to a study in the International Journal of Sexual Health, it found that casual sex is only rewarding for the first few decades, but after then there could be a quarter lifetime of regret.  An excerpt from the article stated:

“There’s a troubling number of adults who spend their prime sexual years in complete coital abandon, then have nothing to show for it but dozens upon dozens of highly detailed erotic memories,” Sullivan said. “They must be so empty inside, one would think.”

Other common, albeit latent, secondary effects noted in the study include mild disappointment and mid-afternoon crankiness, as well as a lingering need for additional casual sex. Researchers could not conclusively establish a link between anonymous, passionate trysts in nightclub bathrooms and these results, however, as a large portion of the polling group was found to be asymptomatic.

I have to wonder if Second Life SLex could be a major contributor to long term future regret of these sexual trysts among the nerdier set.  After all, some SLex probably exceeds some of these swingers mosts wildest dreams by far.  Take for example the wild levels of unadulterated free spirited debauchery that occurs on the grid would definitely blow the minds out of any uninitiated swinger.  If this example from the article is the subjects idea of wild sex, the Second Life grid would truly make him go sign up for a premium account and probably buy his own island.

 ”When I think back on the countless times I’ve had raw, almost bestial sex, indoors or outdoors, with one, sometimes two Asian women whose parents I’ll never have to meet, I occasionally get a little down,” Pertzborn said. “God, what if I wasted my life having guilt-free, uninhibited, sensually explosive sex with anyone I wanted?”

I am really concerned about the studies conclusion about the long term consequences of raw casual sex (or slex for us SL’ers).  The mild regret and possible little pangs of guilt that might come along.  This could be really devastating to the psyche.  It alone might be a prime reason to avoid all forms of SLex on the net and it explains now why anyone who criticizes SLex as stupid or  just plain dangerous now makes complete sense.  After all, why take the clearly obvious risks of mind blowing uninhibited explosive SLex with the risks found in this study.  Dalien Talbot was right, it probably requires many days of intensive one-on-one discussion.

Lastly, this piece from the article only confirms the dangers of promiscuity….

 ”Tragically, it’s quite possible that many of these singles may never realize how miserable a lifetime of phenomenal, kinky sex can make them,” said Sullivan, adding that recent evidence suggests such a healthy, rational realization could be further hindered by the experience of spontaneous oral sex behind the bushes at poolside cocktail parties.

Perhaps what we need to do as a dedicated group of bloggers is form our own long term group to  study these effects.  To verify if they are true or not.

You can read the entire article here.

-Veyron

One of my favorite Second Life people has finally returned to her blog.  Tiessa is back, but I expect in a way she did not plan on….  I now hope to hear more in her in her very interesting and amusing blog.

-Veyron

I find myself getting more and more kinky since the Dark Eden party in my clothing choices. I had a fun time dancing with Zoe, but there was no way the two of us could keep up with Etain…. This is an interesting phenomenon. We’ll have to see how long it lasts. I blame it all on Tiessa….. Eloria took a picture of me in the latest black incarnation. The lacetex is from Kayliwulf Kingdom, the boots are from Dark Eden (of course), the hair is from Calico, the collar (which has a working digital clock) is from Bitter Thorns, and the cuffs are from Lulu’s.

What’s worse is the pink version of this…. dinee caught me last night in it….

-Veyron